It was a busy
morning, about8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's arrived to
have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an
appointment at 9:00 am.
I took his vital
signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone
would be able to see him.I saw him looking at his watch
and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his
wound. On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the
needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.
While taking care of
his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor'sappointment this
morning, as he was in such a hurry.
The gentleman toldme “no,”
that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. He told me thatshe had been there
for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease.
As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.
He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized
him in fiveyearsnow.
I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every morning,
even though she doesn't know who you are?'
He smiled as he patted my hand and said,
'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'
I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm,
and thought,
'That is the kind of love I want in my life.'
True love is neither physical, nor romantic.
True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and
will not be.